When a Woman Gets More by Giving Less

They say women spend more time thinking about love while men spend more time thinking about sex. In my view, what this says is both genders spend an incredible amount of thought time thinking about love. Sometimes we are thinking about how to get it, and at other times we are thinking of how to give it, or the two in the past. In this article with brief relationship tips, we focus on how to get love as well as how to give love in ways that leave you feeling good about your relationship.

Should I Be Mother and Nanny Or Should I Be Friend and Lover?
When women talk, I sometimes hear two things that are as amusing as they are depressing. I hear women designate their husbands as their ‘first born’ child. I also hear women say plenty of things that suggest the man in their lives is completely inept without them. The first thought, where the man is the supposed ‘first born’ is amusing where it is said as a fond description to show that he needs care and nurture. It quickly degenerates into some kind of slavery when it comes just before, alongside, or immediately after the second idea.

Think and Grow Rich – The Greatest Success Manual and a Discount

As has been quoted many times by the best and well known mentors of our times, Think and Grow Rich is without debate the greatest success book of all time. As described by Anthony Robbins one of the best known success mentors of our time, the book which was first produced in hard cover and later in soft cover, is without a doubt one of the best manuals for success ever written.

Everyone with their name on the list of the who’s who in our generation, without exception attribute some impact in their success and eventual transformation to this text. They refer to it with respect as one of the carriers of change for generations. Tens of missions of people all over world, and their numbers are not separated by color, race, or creed attest to having experienced life transforming revelations within the pages of this classic manual.

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill first published in 1937 has maintained its appeal

Relationships – The One Place Where It Is Crucial To Have Fun

101 romantic ideas can right well save your marriage. It is fascinating the number of people I meet with in my generation and in the next (anywhere from 35 to 55 years) that are either in a horrible relationship patch, going through a divorce or just been through one, or are terribly bored in their relationship.

Though I am absolutely compassionate about some of the things people do go through in relationships, there is a strong sense of boredom that spews from a notable number of stories building up to marital trouble that makes me think 'well, if I was in that one I would have an affair too! Yikes! Loosen up!'

Here is the thing, if you cannot have fun with the one person you either intend to spend the rest of

That was Then… a Short While Before I Found Companionship With a Worm

I'd been along this little path for months now. It crossed from the backdoor to the tap outside where there was the one tap of water. I trudged along it daily either grumbling within or stressing about one thing or another. If it wasn’t a misplaced item, it was a word said too soon. I never failed to have something to stress about.

Stressing was quickly turning into my natural state of being – my proclivity – and I was yet to realize just how dangerous that proclivity was to me. It wasn’t as though I had not heard it all before; I knew the script by heart. Give thanks in all circumstances. Always keep a thankful heart. But how could I keep a thankful heart in these circumstances? How could I keep a thankful heart when I was virtually homeless?

Virtually?

Did I say virtually?

What a load of BS!

I was homeless – there was no other way to describe my situation other than that, and I was mad – mad as in as angry as a loser. 

Goal setting – simple tips to make your goals much easier to achieve

A few weeks ago, I gave myself a new task that is taking up a huge chunk of my time. Now, as every true blogger will testify, managing a blog and keeping it up to date can be a task on its own.

Now, I have a number of blogs; one severely Kenyan for fresh graduates looking for jobs in Kenya, and another related to the first that has short tips. The events I go through daily trigger those entries because the job scene in Kenya is interesting. Then there is this one; my true love which makes my days come alive. Handling three blogs, and keeping up with other work stuff in the course of my day is quite the life.

That did not stop me from adding another job to my day, namely freelance writing. If my day was busy before, now it is teeming. I love freelance work – it not only gives me the joy of interacting with all sorts of amazing new people and topics, but it keeps my mind grounded on the fact that I am a publishing girl at heart much as I love personal development.

A money problem is never about money

'A money problem is never about money' is something I first heard when I was broke, homeless and feeling extremely sorry for myself. I knew there was a science to all that was going on in my life, but what could it possibly be?

I was sitting in front of the TV screen half-listening to a popular talk show when the presenter made this amazing statement. At the time, I was spending my time, and a huge percentage of it, thinking just what I could not do, 'because I did not have the money' to do it.

Since my life goes around the topic of personal development and growth and I understand most principles are very scientific in their explanations, this statement caught my attention. Not only because it sounded outrageous but because it was said with such confidence!

I however took some time first to rage at the presenter first. Of course all my problems were about money! Where does he get off telling me my problems are not about money? Who should know better anyway?  

Starting out on the journey of searching for what I did not know

It is an interesting encounter if you think about it – looking for something you do not know. Having started what essentially is a quiet transformation with a noisy declaration, 'if I am not rich by the end of this year, then God is a fraud' was probably the single silliest thing I ever did on this journey.

I mean now all eyes were on me to discover how fraudulent I was going to make God out to be, and I had no idea what I was even on about.

You see, all I knew I had within was a nagging – a sense of 'there is more to my life than anything I have encountered this far'.

Now it is second to impossible to tell people that you are looking for something, which you yourself cannot define. It is an easy way to be declared a psycho and I was well on my way to that title.

Things came to a funny head for me in an honestly unrelated encounter though. The first was an encounter with what I now know as world famous personal development therapy; Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).

Its funny, the saying is true; when the pupil is ready, the teacher will come. More often than not, we do not even recognise that teacher even when they are standing right before us. And I was no different.

Within the year, I was jobless and broke – two common partners on this plane. So I stated to look for a job in Kenya, and did the usual. I noised it about all my friends the exact kind of job I wanted. On a usual morning just like today,

Mind Mastery is a skill like driving or playing a musical instrument

I have met enough people to know that there is a large population everywhere you go that sincerely believe that Mind Mastery is a teaching of foreign religions and extraordinary mystic encounters.

I would agree with them if I had never encountered a recently vibrant retiree crumble, wither and literally die before my eyes within a short period of less than five years after retirement.

Degeneration and loss of verve happens from within

It is a dramatic change; the man comes home after years of service as the supervisor or head of department in a large corporation. He starts by engaging the neighbour with regaling tales of all the wonderful things he has seen in his years of service.

Soon, well as soon as six months later, most people have almost memorised his narrations so now he does not draw too much of a crowd or attention anywhere.

Mind Mastery is The Personal Discipline of the High Achiever

Thoughts are energy!

Try thinking 'I feel good!' on a morning when you have woken up in a relatively okay mood and see how you will be feeling by mid morning. Most likely you will be ecstatic by then, feeling like you could conquer the whole world.

It is like eating a great meal! You feel so full of energy in a short while that you want to live forever. Mental and physical discipline is not a luxury for high achievers it is a necessity. They must consciously learn to discipline their mind to only focus on the thoughts that build them in the direction they wish to go.

Let us take the example of an athlete. I come from a nation world renowned for record breaking athletes. As most people who have success, and high achievers living in their backyard, many of us and I was no different, rarely if ever think much about what it takes to win that gold medal.

Well, I did not think much of it until I encountered real flesh and blood award winning runners in Ethiopia – then I knew the discipline and hours of training ensure their success is never an accident.